Traffic Jams Are Family Members
It might sound odd but it is true. Imagine you leave your home and get stuck in traffic jam on your way to work. Now what you will do? It’s a situation you have not created but are still a part of. Observe if you get angry, crib and then make peace with it. If this jam is on your office route, then maybe you won’t be getting angry everyday but that irritation still lurks around.
Do you then over time start filling in this “jammed” time with other activities like calling people either for meetings or socially? Do you listen to music or read? Do you start looking outside the window and start checking out people or even worse the hoardings around your vehicle? There’s always something our mind would find for you to do, which would simmer down the irritation and anger within. It is our mind which makes us feel these emotions, and then it’s the mind which
brings us these solutions. What if we start making these solutions a part of our drive every time – the rooms for anger and irritation just about minimizes to nothing, and these jams become just another time to explore something unusual.
Do you then over time start filling in this “jammed” time with other activities like calling people either for meetings or socially? Do you listen to music or read? Do you start looking outside the window and start checking out people or even worse the hoardings around your vehicle? There’s always something our mind would find for you to do, which would simmer down the irritation and anger within. It is our mind which makes us feel these emotions, and then it’s the mind which
brings us these solutions. What if we start making these solutions a part of our drive every time – the rooms for anger and irritation just about minimizes to nothing, and these jams become just another time to explore something unusual.
Is that not something that we can do in
dealing with our family members in times when things are sour? When all can’t
see eye to eye and yet have to live together because that’s what families do.
There would be an initial tension but how long that goes on is really dependent
on us. When we have the power to make one hour traffic jam seem like a smooth
ride, there is definitely more to us than just letting things be with our
family. Finding a solution might take time, and executing it might take even
longer, but the process can begin now. It can begin when we want it to, unless
you are gaining some sadistic pleasure in keeping things hanging. Most
importantly – Don’t push anything under the carpet. Work it out, talk it out.
Figure out what is important for us.
It is going to be the same route to work
everyday. The later you leave home, the heavier the jam for you to navigate
through. Try beginning ten minutes earlier from home. Maybe there will be an
opening which will save you precious moments from this jam!
Keep progressing!
ReplyDeleteAnalogy is very interesting. Keep it up.
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